It’s awful and you know what they are flawed and it’s okay, do you go around saying you are a horrible person all the time? Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda always feel guilty that’s the reasons for propelling the show actually. Samantha not so much because her character is about her not feeling guilty or emotion well until the end of the series. Basically if you watched the show from beginning to end instead of blasting an episode from the beginning of the series you can see that each character grows emotionally. And that they actually do have feelings of guilt.

Your comments made sense and gave me a better understanding of why the show is appreciated so much.

They are 4 beautiful (yes! I think they are all incredibly beautiful), talented, hard working women who have managed to maintain a friendship over 20 years. They have helped each other through break-ups, cancer, pregnancy, abortion, marriage, divorce, miscarriage, adultery, financial problems, public humiliation and death.

These women are not perfect, they do not pretend to be, nor do they believe they are perfect. They realize they can be judgemental and harsh. They also realize they can be too soft and take too much crap from other people. They fight with each other. They don’t always get along, they don’t always agree. Sometimes they gross each other out with the things they say.

They can laugh at each other, and more importantly with each other. They will hold up a mirror of reality to each other when it’s needed. They love each other very much. They want only the best for each other. Come hell or high water, these friends will be there til the end for each other. They cheer for each other through everything.

They are not looking for a perfect man, just one who is perfect for them. Yes, the men are flawed, they know this, but they’re willing to accept the flaws in the right man. They accept the flaws in themselves, they accept the flaws in each other, they accept the flaws in the men they love. The relationships that don’t work in the show are the ones where one partner, wanted/expected the other to change.

As the women evolve they come to accept themselves and each other as they are. The basic element of who these women are at the start of the series is the same basic element of who they are at the end.

These women are strong, independent, funny, bright, audacious and articulate. They are also insecure, afraid to trust, romantic, driven, overly tough and hedonistic at times.

They age as the show goes on, they don’t try to stay young. They accept and celebrate each other as women over 30, then over 40 and reaching 50.

All that said, the reason I love the show is the celebration of women and female friendships. It shone a light on being single and showed that it’s ok. It’s also ok to age and deal with pain, because the people you love, and who love you will be there. And if a good man comes along, well that’s just another great thing to add to your life. They show that you can be happy no matter what comes along, because your friends will be there. As Big says in the penultimate episode of the series, ‘you three are the loves of her life, a guy is just lucky to come in fourth.’

Yes, it can be frivolous, it can be silly and decadent and unbelievable in it’s wardrobes…but so what…isn’t that a part of every show? I watch tv to escape from reality for a little while. Does anyone really think that TV and movies are reality? I hope not.

You can say it’s all about shoes, and shopping and sex talk. But it makes me laugh out loud, it makes me think, it makes me cry, it makes me appreciate my friends. What’s so bad about that?

perhaps my name “rot” sounds too much like the common McCarthyist rhetoric of the ‘rot of communism’